Why Are Relationships So Difficult?

This topic contains 26 replies, has 8 voices, and was last updated by  Mr.Children 2 weeks, 5 days ago.

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  • #3174

    smokeybandit
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    Here’s the thing, we started out friends…

    I can never tell if she’s being serious or not about other guys.  A part of me feel like she’s testing my patience and wants to know that I truly can be a friend before entering a relationship.  The other part of me want to yell out in agony every time she pulls at my heart strings.

    Since you’ve been gone…

    We seem to do this thing when we date on and off.  We started going out in October, then in November and December I was MIA.  We linked in January then in February we didn’t go out.  Now it’s March and I don’t know if we’ll ever go out again.

    How come I’ve never heard you say, I just want to be with you?

    I made it clear to her that I want to be with her and we continue to go on dates.  But she keeps on bringing up other guys into the picture.  At one point she said I was her bestfriend and we agreed to be BFF.  However, I’ve been posting about POF just for jokes on my Facebook and I think she may be mad.  That and I had to ask her whether she would turn down a proposal if I got her the $2000 ring that we looked at back in October.

    What the fuck is a guy to do?

  • #3175

    Anonymous

    jus dont be a simp. chase money not hoes

    • #3177

      smokeybandit
      Participant

      I’m all about making the cash. I wanna get in there and make the most cash, but feel that relationship make making money worthwhile.  Also, positive relationships can have positive effects on your money-making abilities.

    • #3178

      Anonymous

      good luck homie. women come n go u gonna learn

  • #3182

    smokeybandit
    Participant

    I keep forgetting and I just remembered…

    I’m suppose to buy her flowers and a visa gift card.

    • #3193

      Anonymous

      LOL. damn like that? lmao you just need a real female to hold you down. they dont got those in Canada anymore?

  • #3184

    Mr.Children
    Participant

    She’s not into you dude. Most likely she’s stringing you along for the attention. She sounds like an attention whore. Not only she needs you to be around to validate that she worth something..she has to remind you that she’s also worth something to other guys.

    Humans are very opportunistic with relationships and when we meet somebody we truly want to be with (not always emotionally but there are women who just want a permanent sugar daddy),  we go for it, and clarify that that is the only person.

    I strongly recommend you move on….because if she does go for you, it’s only because you’re a backup. When you’re the backup, it means that she’ll always be looking for a better guy..even when you’re married with children.

    If you can’t, just give her $500 or something and see if she returns it.

    • #3345

      smokeybandit
      Participant

      Actually, before we started dating I was interested in another girl. She was in the picture while I kept trying to get with the other girl. Myabelle said to me that she was the backup girl lol

      But anyway, maybe we just need some space and time to get over our past relationships. She keeps on talking about her baby dad who keeps trying to get back with her. And a few other guys.

      I think it’s best to take it slow anyway so the relationship isn’t a rebound but a real relationship.

  • #3200

    Mr.Children
    Participant

    One time, there was this girl that I really like. However, it was just obvious that I will never date or marry her. There were just some things about her that I can’t accept. I don’t pursue relationships based on emotions alone, but by logic. I believe that’s why relationships fail because people ignore the early warnings signs. People told me that if I didn’t pursue her, that I would eventually lose her forever…which is exactly what happened. I wanted to continue being a friend and wanted her to be like a best friend. To me, that was than enough to satisfy my heart. It was not enough for her and now she won’t talk to me. I think about her all the time , but I’m very happy with my decision. This is the most I can say and cut my losses early. It’s much better than years later to complain about breaking up and all the heartaches. I was going to lose her anyways…better lose her early.

    • #3201

      Anonymous

      bro didnt you come out as gay? LOL

    • #3203

      LaLa
      Participant

      Friend zoned

       

      (oops, I meant to reply to the OP)

    • #3207

      Anonymous

      hahaha yea man friend zoned to the max LOL

    • #3208

      smokeybandit
      Participant

      I knew it was too good to be true, ’cause she’s a decade younger than me.

    • #3211

      LaLa
      Participant

      Maybe she needs a sugar daddy

    • #3216

      Mr.Children
      Participant

      Young girls love me!

    • #3215

      Mr.Children
      Participant

      How come Khmer Rouge hate gays so much?

  • #3248

    Dynasty
    Participant

    What type of relationship? I dont know what love is… never been in a relationship before. I have the best relationship between my squad on 2k. I’m not ready to give up 2k Friday. The time I have for myself is priceless. Once I give that up, I kno I’m gonna be miserable. I’m not looking for love I’m looking for DUBS.

    • #3249

      Empire
      Participant

      Dynasty, spit some bars with me. Come Roast me. I’m a poetic fiend man.

    • #3250

      Dynasty
      Participant

      Ugh I’m not that good, you’re better then me. I’m not falling for your trap, I’m young not dumb.

  • #3251

    Pleu
    Participant
  • #3293

    smokeybandit
    Participant

    Well, anyway, I ordered some flowers and chocolates for her.  They should be delivered to her tomorrow!  I hope she will talk to me again.  She’s the closest thing to Heaven this side of the Great Lakes lol

  • #3296

    Empire
    Participant

    Relationships take time. Find the one you can go through y0ur ups and down and see if she will be there when times hit the rough patches.  With it will c0me rewards and I wish you the best.  Show her what you’re made of!

    • #3298

      smokeybandit
      Participant

      I’m made of steel, with a bit of rubber.  How do I show that to her?  Beep beep!

    • #3300

      Empire
      Participant

      Time is of the essence and disregard material possession. You know what’s more valuable and if it takes time to make or buy what she wants, then maybe she is a material person which anyone can acquire. Bottom line, it has to be you what she wants. Strip away anything you own or will make.  If you had nothing left, who will be there to feed you?

    • #3347

      Mr.Children
      Participant

      Just looking at the other side, people staying together doesn’t mean their relationship is good…and I personally believe most of the time, it’s not. Fear of being alone and struggling to survive financially alone are some of the main big reasons why people stay together. A lot of people in relationships look down on single people…but single people are often the brave ones who end relationships they shouldn’t be in.

  • #3301

    YellowPeril
    Participant

    Protip: Ditch drama and focus on you. If people value your time, they won’t play games. That 2k could be put to better use to advance your career or buy something nice for yourself or even your mom.

    Relationships don’t have to be complicated. Complications boil down to priorities and quite frankly you aren’t hers. Time to move on and consider yourself lucky dodging this would-be train wreck. Don’t stoop low to her level, just keep moving towards a better future for yourself.

    • #3349

      Mr.Children
      Participant

      I always feel lucky if a girl rejects me or do me wrong. It means that she saved me a lot of time and problems. So many women aren’t interested in good men…now they are with bad men or single with kids..struggling. Glad I don’t have to deal with it.

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