She's not ready for a serious relationship

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  • #7429

    smokeybandit
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    Well, my ex-date from a couple years ago, whom we sparked up a conversation just a few weeks ago, seemed to be playing the avoidance game. We talk about doing things together, like playing basketball and shopping, and she would agree to them, but she would always end up making other plans. I really think she feels for me but she doesnt want to rush into anything.

    Tonight, I sent her a message and she wasnt responding. She had gone camping all weekend. Finally, I let her know that I will be a friend to her and let her know that Ill be there for her. She finally responded saying she woukd like that and telling me that she’s not ready to get into a serious relationship.

    I finally caved on the dating game because I felt that it was rushing things and I could sense that she wanted to slow things down. I should’ve figured this out 2 years ago.

    She tells me she’s been single for the past 2 years and havent made anytime for dates. I figure it’s better to be friends so that I have a chance to meet up with her than rushing into a serious relationship that she’s not ready for. I really hope we will get to spend more time together — as friends.

  • #7432

    smokeybandit
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    Actually, my exact words were, “I have a lot planned for the next few years and I hope you will be in the picture.”

    • #7440

      Mr.Children
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      I know it’s human nature, but I don’t think a person should have another person dictates what’s going on in their mind or how they live their lives. You shouldn’t let a girl bother you so much that you have to make threads about her or talk to people about her. You shouldn’t let another person have that much power over you! It doesn’t matter if she’s ready for a relationship or not…what matters is that you don’t give a f*ck! It’s like you’re going to get ka thiew this Saturday, and if she’s down or not..it doesn’t matter…you still eating ka thiew. Do you think about guys being your friends? No you don’t! If they want to be friends or not, hang or not, it doesn’t matter…you still going to chill.

  • #7491

    smokeybandit
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    You should’ve stopped at the first five words. This is about friendship and relationship, not dictatorship. You seem to have a very negative view of human interaction.

    I enjoy writing about it because it’s a pretty interesting journey. Friendships require work as do relationships. Nobody ain’t telling me how to live my life or do anything I don’t want to.

    I care about the girl, enough to want to see her again. Our interactions are mutual and nobody is forced to do anything. Thanks for reading!

    • #7496

      Mr.Children
      Participant

      She has so much power over you man! You’re like the person who sings the song about not being over a girl. The thing is, once you stop giving a f*ck…that’s when she starts wanting you.

    • #7498

      smokeybandit
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      No, that’s where you’re wrong. You have to start giving a fuck because your trash will become someone else’s treasure. If you don’t make the time and commitment then she’ll find some other piece of meat who will pay attention to her. And you gotta give a fuck, cuz then she’ll want some more vitamin D. That sunshine vitamin.

      I wish I could go back into the past and relive some of the strongest connection with women. It’s natural but so surreal to let your body and emotions take over as you come together. I’m still thinking about my ex-gf, she was the perfect whore. Willing to give it all too me, but I set some boundaries. When shit hit the fan it all dissipated like a sail in the ocean.

      I’m trying to move forward though and hope I will find another like her. She was my half-black, half-Chinese beauty.

  • #7524

    Mr.Children
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    I see what you mean, but I think you’re pass the needing to care phase….it really doesn’t matter. You can show that you care but she won’t care anymore. Women are naturally attracted to men that are hard to get. That’s why they like diamonds and pursuing crap that’s more rare or expensive. If they can get you like grass, they walk over you like grass. You realize that most women are sleeping with the top 20% of men? These men are of higher value, but they are extremely hard to get and keep.

    The guys who keep pursuing women and trying to care eventually get the women….after these women been with the top 20% of men.

    Though the past is awesome and we all would like to relive, the reality is that it’s all about the future. The past was once the future and we have to look forwards to all the opportunities that lie in front of us. We look back at the past because we realize lost opportunities and how easier it would be if we could go back knowing what we all know now. It’s always like that, but it also applies to the future..we just gotta prepare for the future.

  • #7943

    Pleu
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    pretty much everybody bang on first date now and get pregnant; its like the opposite of ‘planned parenthood’!

    • #7952

      Mr.Children
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      My opinion is that many girls planned to get pregnant. Having children means child support, government assistance, kids grow up to take care parents, and status. In much of Asian society, a woman that is below a piece of trash single mother is a woman with no kids. We all seen dumb single Asian mothers who would laugh and talk sh*t about the Asian girls ho is 28, college educated, and no kids. There’s no real shame at having a child at 17 in our community..but there is shame in being a single woman with no kids at 28.

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