Does Khmer Culture act too quickly

This topic contains 5 replies, has 3 voices, and was last updated by  smokeybandit 2 months ago.

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  • #1360

    smokeybandit
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    It’s common within traditional Khmer culture for couples to marry instantly upon meeting.  Older traditions had parents making decisions for the child when it came to marriage.  Reality has shown that this is not always the best course of action.

    Love it or hate it, I feel that dating gives you insight that you wouldn’t otherwise get from first meetings.  The more time you spend with a person, the more you know about them and your feelings for that person.  It also weeds out the serial killers (joking!).

    Where do you stand when it comes to relationships?  Quick kill or slow down???

  • #1372

    LaLa
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    When it comes down to it, I think it depends on the relationship. Some people instantly connect as if they’ve known each other their whole lifetime within a short period. Whereas others, it might take them a little longer to get to know the person.

    • #1629

      smokeybandit
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      Have you seen the movie “50 First Dates”?  I feel like I need to go on that number of dates before I really connect with a person.  I stay cautious, I like to take it slow.

  • #1386

    Mr.Children
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    Arranged marriage is not necessarily bad and usually have lower divorce rates. Most parents look for the best for their children, so they seek to find the best partners.

    Most love relationships and half of love marriages usually fail because most people are too stupid to make the right decision even in their 20s and 30s…even older. Children born our of wedlock, divorces, children with different fathers and mothers.

    In theory and logic would say that people are better off finding their own partners…but in reality, other people..especially families make better decisions for people.

    Putting everything above aside, the problem with Khmer people is that so many of the guys cheat and visit brothels. The women are too focused on getting pregnant at young ages. Need to be more concern with education and being competitive in the world than relationships and pumping our children.

    • #1561

      smokeybandit
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      I think arranged marriages have lower divorce rate because the couple is trying to “save face.”  They do not want to disrespect their elders for arranging their marriage so they stay in the relationship.  Even though many don’t genuinely care for their partner, they stay in the arranged marriage because they do not want to offend others, but they’re not really happy.

    • #1564

      Mr.Children
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      There are many reasons for lower divorces rates, such as men having the money/power or divorced women are less likely to be pursued for marriage. However, I think for the most part, most parents look for the best partners for their children. It’s a culture that thinks long term and attract partners based on standards. When they get older, the couple realize they can tolerate each other…that the husband is capable and the wife isn’t a ho.

      Most people in their 20s and 30s just don’t have the ability to be objective and judge long term. In love culture, they just live by emotion. The girl go for the bad boy, and end up leaving him because he can’t take care of the family or don’t make good money. The guy realize that his girl been with so many guys and is seen as a buffoon…so he values her less. End result is more divorces, infidelities, and children born from multiple parents.

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